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Happy Hour with Bundle Birth Nurses
Hope for a Positive Possible Future: The Nurse I am Becoming
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In this season finale of Happy Hour with Bundle Birth Nurses, we zoom out. From the history of obstetrics to the current realities of intervention, burnout, and rapid change, this episode explores where we’ve been, where we are, and where we’re headed as nurses. But beyond science and statistics, we dive into something deeper: identity. Who are you outside of your role, and how can discovering your core essence fuel a long, colorful, sustainable career in nursing? That’s all for season 7, see you in season 8 of Happy Hour with Bundle Birth Nurses!
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I have a confession for this episode that I have struggled.
I even asked you guys on Instagram, what you wanted for this final, final episode of this season, 7 of Happy Hour with Bundleberg nurses.
Thank you for still being here.
And I really have gone around in circles.
In fact, I've already sort of recorded some.
I turned it off.
I walked away.
I tried to record this yesterday.
I walked away.
And, you know, there's there's an element of pressure because it's the finale, and so you want to go out with a bang, but something that I've been considering personally in a—at the same time, I just want this to be relevant to you.
I want it to connect with you.
I want it to be something that's maybe a surprise that you didn't know that you needed.
And, you know, I want to wrap up the season well, and I know we will be back.
And so season 8 will be coming this year.
And so if you have questions for us, we are still taking voicemails that is linked down below.
You can send us a little quick voice note and I can answer some of those questions in the next season.
That was really fun to do this season.
And if you have other ideas or stories or guests that you want to see on the podcast, just email us at nurses at bundlebirth.com.
And so when I was reviewing this season, it's so interesting to sort of see the trends and what's going on in the world and sort of what is fueling where we go in these conversations.
I love the pod because it feels like my way to really connect with you.
I hope you feel connected with us.
Um, and with myself because what I want you to take away is, is that we just really care.
I want you thriving.
I want you living your best life.
I want you being able to love your life and your job.
And when I look at this season of what we brought with between misinformation and working with doulas and position changes and burnout and, you know, change in relationship with Justine no longer being a part of the pod anymore and that, you know, that struggle or that, just like accepting the change.
Um, a lot of what we've looked at this season has been a lot more soft skill related.
And so when I asked you on Instagram, what you wanted to see.
One of you wrote and it was like, just give me the science.
I want the science, and I love the science.
Trust me, I am in the science in my cave of move, learning retreat prep for the content that we'll be learning there.
I'm so excited about what's coming out.
It feels like I'm writing a dissertation and sort of like my life's work coming together and like all the loose ends rounded up through this training.
So I'm so excited for that.
And I also love the science.
If you've been to any of our classes, it's like research, study, central.
My, you know, my research lists or my resource lists and all the classes are 100s of resources long.
And so, I want to talk science, and it had me on pause, though, because I have been also in my cave prepping for our theme for move, which is the creative art of nursing, combined with centering the patient experience for better outcomes, because I believe, that we both can win in this profession, that you can live colorfully, that you can have an abundant, a rich, a, a meaning— a colorful life, and our patience can have that experience as well.
And yeah.
And yeah.
Yes.
If any of you are thinking about the realities of the hospital system right now, and these are things like in conversations, we will be having it move, that the system, the way that we're at, where we're at in obstetrics right now just doesn't necessarily allow for the most colorful existence.
And if you are experiencing the most colorful life and the most colorful work, and you are loving your job and there's no chance you'll consider leaving and that every patient is inspiring to you and you have meaning in your work and that you are excited to show up to work, then I am so happy for you.
And this episode is context because.
That's.
That's not what I'm hearing.
And that's not even necessarily what I'm experiencing in life.
The world is hard right now.
There are some new challenges.
There are some shifts happening in the world, you know, the easy one is AI, which I could talk about, and we will be mentioning it move, but I may actually mention today, we'll see, this is entirely like a flex and flow episode.
We will see where we end up going on it.
But if you're following the history, like we are at the precipice of change, the change that has happened in our profession and in our lives, broad, beyond work, is bigger than anything I've experienced in my life and the rapidness of change is unprecedented, and that's everything I'm reading in business, in economics, in healthcare, et cetera.
And so we are looking at continued change.
And while change, there will be benefit to that.
There will be beautiful things that come of that as we've seen over the history of time, how we've improved our lives.
Across the way, that also comes with challenge.
And so I think some of the themes that we're seeing this season and in our conversations, make a lot of sense based on where we're at in history.
And so I have really, really been diving deep, and again, this is a part of move, but into this idea of the past, the present, the future.
And how do we sustain, a long, thriving, colorful career as nurses.
I just heard a stat that the intent to leave for nurses went from 21% to 40%.
40% of nurses.
That is almost half of our profession, has an intent to leave.
Maybe you're one of them.
And so what do we do about this?
I think it's important that we pause and pull back because the past to, I'm not a history person, but what I'm seeing is the past informs the future.
And oftentimes the present, we want to be grounded in the present, we want to see the present, we want to live in the present, we want to be actively aware of and present in the present.
But the past can really inform us in the present and the future.
And so I have scoped out.
In fact, those of you coming to move, you're going to get like a full timeline of obstetrics and not everything's in there, but a lot of stuff is in there.
And because I think we've got to sometimes zoom out and pause for a 2nd because again, our blinders are on and all we see is what we know right now.
But when we start to zoom out, we can start to gain perspective on the present leading into the future for how we survive this crisis.
And so when we look at the past of obstetrics, there have been so many shifts.
You've seen, maybe I've mentioned this on, you saw it on stories because I've been like teasing this out as I've been learning about the history of obstetrics even more.
I know for me, and I don't know about you, but I've pieced together pieces of the history of obstetrics, and, you know, you've heard components of this, but I've never seen a timeline from beginning to end that includes what happened in medicine, what happened in midwifery, what happened in nursing, what happened in like the, the, sort of historical context of the times.
What happened with racism in the country and the gender, the gender divide, so feminism and how that came out and how that's contributed to the whole history of upstatuation.
So I've included all of that in this timeline, and I'm really excited to present this to you.
And I'm sort of talking about it now because we're not going to have time to present it in depth and detail, but I'm going to summarize it with the nuggets that I think are really important.
And so, I've sort of put myself in the shoes of the past.
For instance, it was, and I've mentioned this in previous ones, but I think this is important.
Oh, and like, I've also included the history of C-section in that.
So it wasn't until, let me get the date right.
It was 1878.
So picture yourself in 1878.
Thank God we're not there.
I definitely wouldn't want to live in that era, that C Hist was the recommended thing to do in the case of a necessary C-section.
Prior to that, they had they had like a 10% survival rate, I believe it was.
I want to say don't quote me on that, but I probably should pull that up as an exact number.
It was 1793 when the 1st medical literature noted a C-section where the mom survived.
It was 94 where mom and baby survived.
And so, from 1800 to 1860, they did a few C sections with a 90% mortality rate.
Okay?
And now mind you, C-sections popped on the map with a combination of the invention of anesthesia and then also suture development, interestingly enough, and actually the invention of, I don't know if you say, invention, but like the discovery of, or the invention of antibiotics also have helped us get to where we are today.
And so, you can imagine that like C-section, you're like 90% chance you're going to die, and then all of a sudden, in 1878, they started doing C hiss with a 70% survival rate.
You know, this is an analogy, I think, for us to think about where we're at today.
It does apply, so bear with it.
In 1878, see Hist, if I went from a 90% mortality to a 70% survival rate, I'd be feeling like I'm doing pretty good.
Right?
And so yet, where we fast forward to today, we know C Hist is last resort, and we have a very, very, very high survival rate with our C-sections, right?
But yet in 1878, that is all they knew.
That was the best they did with the knowledge and information they had at the time.
And so, if we fast forward to 2026, we are still doing the best we can with the knowledge and information we have at this current time.
And yet 100 years from now, 150 years from now, what will we be saying looking at 2026 and going, well, we did the best we could, but now we know this.
The reality is the U.S. is a very young country, and we have a very young science when it comes to obstetrics in the hospital.
By 1900, only 5% of all births occurred in the hospital.
5%.
Otherwise, they were out of the hospital.
But by 1938, about 50% of all births occurred in hospitals.
So when you zoom out, that's where I want to look now just to start, is this idea of looking at the past, we can learn so much.
To inform our present.
And again, my question for the present is, what do we not know now that then we will know in the future?
Now, the reality is to this current day, we have an ability to rescue that is far beyond what we ever had in the past.
What ability to rescue is you'll find that a lot in the literature when we look at this stuff, is the ability to rescue is the ability to save lives.
We can resuscitate, we can bring people back that should probably be dead and get them living and, you know, and ultimately, sometimes they lead to like a semi-normal life, right?
We have incredible amounts of medicine, and inventions, and, you know, and medications, and techniques, and tools that help support our practice.
All right?
So I want to be clear that like that's amazing with the history of where we've been.
Right?
And yet, what are we going to be saying about the future, because the reality of current day is that we currently still default towards intervention.
We have that high ability to rescue.
So we can intervene fast, but we have a, we have still really high intervention levels, right?
So it's high capacity, high intervention, our C-section rates are at 30%.
We know that primary C-sections are that major driver.
That's why the push for lowering NTSV rates.
We know that our maternal mortality rates are high, especially for us being a developed country.
I'm speaking for the US only.
And they reflect widespread racial disparities that still exist.
We know that Pitosin is now one of the most commonly used drugs worldwide with over 80% of women who have labor induced have Pitosin, and 15 to 40% of women in spontaneous labor receive Pitosin along the way.
Like, that's an intervention.
We know that since 2018, which was the arrive trial, the rate of elective induction by 39 and 6 increased from 30.2% to 36.one%.
We know that the presence of midwives is scarce in the hospital system.
We know that physiologic birth is now a central priority for us.
And that's something that I want to celebrate because we're all talking physiologic birth.
You've all been to our class.
You've been learning about the physiology for the 1st time ever, and that, those conversations are being had, and it's starting to become a priority for your hospitals.
If your hospital hasn't, hasn't brought in our class.
Please tell them about us.
We'll drop our manager link.
It's fully anonymous where you can drop your manager's email.
And basically, it just automatically sends them an email, like someone on your unit actually, like, wants you to consider and wants to take our classes and they will never know it's you, by the way.
And then that allows us to be able to communicate with them and get them the information they need to potentially work with us.
We also know that we have these care deserts that are popping up, that access to care is slowly going down, leading to the care deserts, which really affects the quality of care.
There's less labor units.
Some of you have had to move jobs.
There's less obese also, which means declining early prenatal care, longer travel times, more lean staffing.
That's a huge issue.
And then there is, okay, so this is a shift that I want to stay in the present 4 because again, the past informs the future, but we are smack dab in the middle of this history.
Okay, that there is a movement that focuses on, and I wrote this out very specifically for you in your move workbook, that focuses on more nuanced labor management, nuanced, and communication quality rather than just rushing to failure to progress, for example, right?
And this comes from ACOG.
So, and when we compare vantage points between physician and nurse, we are a team, and yet there's sometimes those riffs.
There's sometimes, you know, the push pull of vantage point.
And so where I want to go and just make a plug for, is the idea that like we just have different vantage points.
When we look at actually, and I do have another chart that I'll share with you at move.
That looks at the physician nurse vantage point.
I'm only going to read you one little piece because I don't want to bore you, but I find that stuff's like so interesting.
And I think, again, it does inform us on where we're at currently and how we can function better, that the focus of a doctor is fixing the disease.
They're going to look at the facts, they're going to look at the objective information in front of them to find a diagnosis and put together a treatment plan.
That is their job.
There's nothing wrong with that.
That is their job.
Whereas our vantage point is caring for the person.
We want to care for the whole person.
We've known, and we've learned in nursing school, all of the like holistic theories of nursing, which I couldn't tell you right now, but now, like, also make sense when I'm looking at this stuff.
That the patient is the whole person that also includes their diagnosis, their family, their surroundings, how this, whatever circumstance, depending on the area of nursing, you're talking about, affects their life, right?
That we that we look at, the spiritual, the emotional, the mental, the physical, um, and the relational aspects of our job.
Now, what we both care about is care and cure.
We both, we want them to be well.
We're on the same team.
And in fact, if you are struggling to work with your physicians, you're struggling with knowing how to how to speak up and how to have those meaningful conversations to center your patient.
I invite you to the care framework class.
It's only 30 bucks.
It's on Wednesday.
It is recorded if you can't make it live, but we're going to have those conversations that I'm going to present to you an easy process for having those conversations with the physician, all based on the foundation that we are on the same team.
And so when we think about the past, we want to be curious.
And we want to use it to inform the future and stay, stay really curious about the fact of like, okay, this isn't the end all be all.
We're going to continue to level up to grow, and we get to be a part of the future of OB, which to me is very hopeful and very motivating.
Now, when we look at the present.
To be grounded and present in the present, getting curious, finding your identity in the present.
And so the other piece that I've been thinking about in my prep for move is this idea of identity versus rule.
And when we look at the creative art of nursing.
There's the science of nursing, and so that's where like we need to know our stuff, all the information is out there.
It is discoverable, know what to do in a hemorrhage, know what to do in a shoulder, know how to respond and go up the chain of command.
Know how to chart.
All of those more hard skills are learnable.
That information is robust.
And yet, when we look at the art of nursing, the art of nursing is soft skills, its shared decision making, it's treating the whole person.
It's removing bias.
It's trauma informed care, it's communication.
It's patient education, it's connection, and that relational side of our job, which I know, is so many of our favorite thing about nurses, and yet it's also the most exhausting.
And so how are we supposed to sustain and how are we supposed to live colorfully?
How are we supposed to make it when we know that nurses have an intent to lead by 40% of nurses?
Like, that's horrifying to me.
And so, in the present, we have to be fueled by a positive possible future.
That's the only way.
If we think that the future, and we're cynical about the future, and we're saying the future is dark, there's no hope.
This AI thing's going to destroy us.
So medical misinformation out there is going to destroy us.
I'm over it.
I can't.
We can't work together.
There's misinform misinformation and miscommunication.
Constantly.
I can't care.
How in the world are we ever going to do that?
A lot of the personal work that I've been doing in coaching and in my own reflections and personal growth and really just like continuing to want to level up and be the best that I can be and show up in this world.
I've been asking and deconstructing a lot of my past and a lot of my thoughts on things.
And really questioning like how much of what I believe and how I function today is based on me being told that that's the right thing, me being told that, that's noble or that's acceptable.
Versus what I actually believe.
And again, like, I'm, I'm, I'm, mid 30s, y'all.
And like, I am still asking these questions.
I think we're always a work in progress and I've done some of this, but I've really been thinking about identity.
And so I had a conversation yesterday with Jason, my coach.
And I asked him, I was like, this identity shift and like my identity, like I'm struggling right now, to be honest.
With my, what I had said was identity, in this world of birth.
Um, where do I fit?
And having a little bit of imposter syndrome and feeling like, okay, does anyone care?
And what am I working for?
And what do I care about still, you know, and I care about so many things, but like, what is my core essence?
And what we got into was this idea of identity is our core essence.
It's who I am when every role is removed.
It's who I am when every role is removed.
Because in this move, prep, and we're talking about what it means to be a nurse and why you're a nurse and whatnot, I think so, so quickly.
A nurse becomes our identity.
When really it's just a role.
It's how we show up in relationship to something else.
So that could be mom, that could be nurse, that could be for me, founder and CEO, that could be daughter, friend, sister, um, you know, Pilates instructor or whatever, right?
So the roles are how we show up in the world, but our identity is our core essence.
And so, the fear is that if our identity or if my identity, for instance, is in a nurse, if that were to be stripped away, who am I?
I lose my whole self.
And so when I think about the positive possible future or living colorfully in the future and maintaining hope, there has to be a removal of our identity being placed in our roles.
So then when we think about core essence.
It's the person that you are when you're not in any of your roles.
When you're in total silence, in total aloneness, in solitude.
It's your values, it's your core, it's your nature.
It's how you show up in the world, what moves you outside of your roles.
And I think that's really, really tricky when you push into that.
So I am actually giving you some exercises for discovery, coming at move, which is really fun.
But as I've been doing that, I've really had a hard time asking that question.
And not confusing the role that I play as a nurse or as an educator or as a boss or as a leader or as a, you know, innovative thinker or whatever it may be as a podcast host in this case.
Because when I know that, that can inform how I show up as a nurse and how I inform the creativity that I get to infuse into my practice as a nurse.
And so that's what I want you thinking about today, that like, how do I become creative, pulling in my core essence?
Now, the only way to know how to do that is to know what your core essence is.
And so there's lots of exercises, there's lots of ways of discovery for that.
But asking some of the questions like, and I wrote some of these down for myself because I've been going through them.
What am I like when no one needs anything from me?
What have I always loved regardless of who is watching?
What makes me come alive?
What do I keep coming back to across every single chapter of my life?
What makes me feel most like myself?
And I wrote down for myself not most effective, most useful, most impressive, but most myself.
Gets who you are at your core.
Because that is your own unique color, that I bring my own unique color, that is unlike any other shade in the crayon box or the colored pencil box.
And so when I can know what my essence is, how I creatively show up in the world and in my role of nursing, I bring my own unique color.
And then when you do the same, and we're doing that internal work.
And we're bringing that color and we're knowing that color, we're bringing our creative essence into our work, all of a sudden, we together make the world a colorful place.
And so in my dissertation, it's like the color is not you alone.
It's us together.
And that's what I love about this community.
That's what I love about what we get to do at move, please come.
There are still tickets available, deadline closes March 11th.
And then it will be our last one that we do for now.
For now, meaning like in very anywhere near future.
We have some other things up our sleeve and some other things in the works, but there will not be another move anytime.
Really, we're not planning at all.
But even when you come to one of our classes or you join mentorship, that's the best way to really be doing it together, but, find your own community, find your own colorful people, who are doing the work to discover their creative essence, who are doing the work to show up intentionally in the present, with their patients pausing at the door, and applying their own creative color to the coloring book of your unit.
I hope you're getting this analogy.
And ultimately adding life back into our work.
So we learn from the past.
Were grounded and present in the present and curious about it all, but were fueled by a positive possible future that leaves us hopeful.
So when we look at the creative art of nursing, what does this look like?
I think these are some of the things that I've come up with that are like the power of, and the beauty of nursing.
We are witnesses.
We get to witness in our case birth, death, life, vulnerability, like the core of how humanity is, we get let into those moments.
We talk about that a lot.
We get to deal with the body itself.
And learn its rhythms, how it fails and its capacity to bring life, to recover, to do hard things.
We get to offer our expertise in the science, rather than impose it on the patient.
And care for, that's the core of what we do.
We get to care for others in a way that helps transform their actual bodies and their physiology.
Their relationship with their partner with themselves, with their future baby or their current baby.
So much of our job is just holding without fixing.
We get to fix.
Yes, we get to support, yes.
But so much of the beauty of the creativity and the art of nursing is just holding space.
Being a safe space, listening really well.
Offering our presence, therapeutic presence as we talk about in nursing school.
What other creative things do you get to do as a nurse?
I think even just me thinking about what that means, I'm like, oh, oh, oh, how cool can help fuel us for the future and for a long sustaining career.
When I originally planned this episode, I had titled it, The Nurse I Am Becoming.
And that had me like, ooh, on a whole journey of identity and past, present, future and like, what do I want?
And what do I actually care about?
And all of that.
And the reality is that maybe some of you are like, no, the nurse I am becoming is not a nurse or it's, you know, it's in a different environment or whatever and that's great.
I think you need to prioritize what you need.
When I look at my journey of nursing, in general, I am like, this was never the plan.
And so even my vantage point, my, how I apply.
My nursing has shifted over the many years that I've been doing this.
And so I really have been sitting in, what is the nurse I'm becoming?
And the role of the nurse, I am becoming because there's different, and how does my core essence play into the nurse that I am becoming?
And as I've pushed in on that question, some things that have come up for me are the fact that and I mentioned this in a previous episode, but I want fun and miracles.
Fun and miracles and how we see the world is a choice.
That we can miss it.
We miss so much of the beauty and the color that's around us, and so my vantage point has been looking for the miracles, looking to make fun in my life, prioritizing that.
I also want breakthrough.
There's still a ton right now, especially in business in this current state and the way corporate America is taking over small business and all of that, that like I question a lot.
I question whether what we're doing is even worthwhile and like, what am I doing and why am I here?
And does anyone care all the time?
There's still a ton that is hard.
And so I want to hold space for myself in the present, and validate my feelings while also moving through them, not around them, and asking for breakthrough.
I'm asking the question of who I am and where do I fit in the grand scheme of the big picture?
What is my color?
I don't want to be you.
I want you to be you.
And I want to support you in you being you in the beautiful color that you are.
And I also want to show up my vibrant self.
I want to show up my, I'm picturing like a watercolor that like a dry watercolor has no ability to bring its color into the art.
I want to add and be so juicy that my color is just available to the world to help contribute to the history that we are in in obstetrics that we get to shape.
When I push in on myself, I want to challenge the status quo.
I want to help co-create our future.
I want to contribute my brain in the ways that I can.
And I also know, don't want to forget the relationships around me.
You've heard maybe in a previous season, we did an episode on friendships.
And so I want to not get lost in the work and lost in my job and remember and prioritize those that are closest to me.
Knowing that we make each other better and that our relationships are what makes our lives more rich, more deep, our relationships are what adds the water to the watercolor palette.
And I want to find contentment in this present.
I feel content, but I also feel a lot of unrest.
And so that's where I'm at currently.
Um, and so I put together a list to close this out of 3 choices I'm making to keep me leveling up.
And so my challenge for you in this episode, and as I we sort of close out this season.
Is to think about your challenges.
Maybe some of these resonate with you.
Maybe they don't.
But the only way that we survive this world, that we survive this profession, that we find color, that we live colorfully, that we have an abundant, rich, deep, meaningful life, is by making intentional choices of how we apply ourselves, what we're learning, how we choose to see the world, what we prioritize.
And by actually doing the internal work to discover our essence.
And so the choices I'm making, I wrote, I said three, but I wrote down more because I was rambling in my brain, but here we go.
Is to look for the fun and the magic.
There's so much drab.
There's so much black and white.
There's so much boring.
There's so much hard.
And I'm not saying don't, don't, notice that and don't acknowledge that.
But what I'm saying is that's easiest to see.
It's harder to see the magic.
The fun, the miracles.
And so I want to look for the fun, magic and miracles.
I also wanna know my shit.
And I literally wrote that down that way.
Like, I want to know my stuff.
And so I want to continue to be committed to being that lifelong learner.
I recently studied for and passed my CEFM.
That was one of my own personal goals, but all of the information is findable and knowable.
And we will keep bringing that in the next season.
And yet, you can go read it, right?
I want to continue to love learning.
I want to continue to grow in my knowledge, like the actual practical knowledge of nursing and not lose any of that.
I also am making the choice to be kind.
Be kind to myself in particular, being really mindful of how I speak about myself.
One of the rules going into move is that we are not body shaming at all.
And this is obviously just one way to be kind, but I think it's a really relevant way when you throw a bunch of women at a 5 star resort in Mexico and bikinis all day.
And so in the 1st move, I have been on a body journey.
I've shared about that a little bit here and there.
Maybe you've caught it, maybe you haven't, but I was bullied for my weight growing up.
I was bullied.
I've been bullied my whole life.
And I think as a part of my journey for my body and my health, there has been a shift in me towards health and not weight.
And so we were going on a scouting trip for our 2023 move learning retreat.
And I will share this, but my mother was coming along on the trip.
She's actually a part of the A-team.
That's what we call our staff going to move.
And my mom has a a long history in event planning, and she's a professional organizer, and she works really hard.
And so we included her in the 1st move learning retreat and then offered her a job back to come because she's been so helpful.
And so you'll meet Mama Sandy at Move, and she, though, in our family, we have talked a lot about our bodies along the way.
And I was finding that, there's a lot of commenting about bodies.
And so as we were going into this trip, which this eventually became a rule for move is that I specifically had a conversation with my mom that was hard.
And I said, mom, on this trip, I need us all to be really mindful, and I'm asking you to be really mindful, that we do not talk negatively about our bodies.
Because more often than not, we're not talking about other people's bodies.
We might think things, but we talk about our own, right?
And we express our shame or our guilt or I, you know, I got to get fit or I got to, you know, I got to get my body right or like I can't be in a bikini or I can't be in a swimsuit or, and even thinking about like that might be a barrier to some people coming to move.
And so I asked my mom, can we just live in a free way where there's 0 comments about bodies?
And she was like, ah, absolutely.
This is helpful for me too.
Like, thank you for the reminder or whatever.
And what happened on that trip was transformational for me in my body journey.
And again, when I say like being kind to ourselves.
This is one possible area, but also I think an analogy for the bigger picture.
All of a sudden, my brain power was freed up to see and experience the world differently.
And when I took my thoughts captive, when I was aware of where my brain was going, I noticed how mean I am to myself.
How much I put myself down, how much I spend so much of my brain power being hard on myself.
The world is already hard enough, and we get to choose the story that we write for ourselves.
And so one of the rules for move is that we don't do body shaming, that I am asking you, if you are coming, and actually just in life, that like we just stop.
It's so unnecessary and like society's view of our bodies or what's beautiful is created.
It's a little bit of a scam.
We get to decide what's beautiful and I want to say all of you are beautiful.
Be out there.
If you want to wear a thong and shake your booty out on the beach at whatever size you are, then get it, girl.
Your body is beautiful.
It is keeping you alive.
It is sustaining you.
You have a beautiful brain and personality and body to accompany it.
And let's just live freer.
And so that can go way beyond how we talk about our bodies, but being kind to ourselves, really being mindful of when I am putting myself down, you're so stupid.
You don't actually know, no one cares, you don't like, do you actually care?
You know, am I missing something and just choose to be kind to myself?
I also am working on grounding myself in an identity in something outside of work and really doing the work to ask the question of like, what is myself?
What's my core essence?
What's my identity?
And for me, a lot of my life, that has been rooted in faith.
And in my like spiritual side, and this may be controversial, especially for those of you that have a faith, um, which I still do, and I feel like my faith is is evolving to be even more robust and beautiful and expansive.
But I honestly, and again, this could change.
So like bear with it, just hold space for me, that I think rooting yourself in your faith could potentially be risky in that it is not as expansive, as a higher power would even want.
I think that, so, actually, I'm going to like stop there because I want to be mindful of people's triggers, and if you are at move and you want to have this conversation, I would love to have this conversation in person, but I think, I don't know that podcast is the best way.
But even in, like, I'm questioning some of that and going, I want to live at my essence.
I want to celebrate my core and own who I am.
Not my role, not necessarily even anything outside of myself.
Like, who am I at my core?
And how do I celebrate and find my identity that is shaped by my faith that is shaped by my surroundings?
That's shaped by the rules that I play.
And yet, living out and expressing that core identity in the world, I believe, is how I show up, like a wet watercolor.
Um, and then last but not least, this ends up being 5 is to really celebrate small wins as enough, that oftentimes we look at even us as a nurse of like, oh, but they went to C-section.
Oh, but I didn't this or, oh, that was a weird interaction or, oh, I didn't do it right or, oh, I forgot to do this.
But instead that we focus on the small winds.
And we say that we are enough, that those baby steps, those every little piece along the way is enough.
And ultimately that I am enough.
You get to bring your creative self to your profession and your role of nursing.
And so, as I close this out, I usually do an outro and then I'm like, now go.
But I'm going to tell you my now go now.
Because now go and find one thing.
What's one invitation that you can make to yourself.
Invitation to me is like open.
It's hands open.
It's soft.
It's not forcing anything.
But like, what are you challenged by in this episode to do?
Whether it be look at the past, look at the present or.
Find a positive, hopeful future.
What color are you bringing to your work?
And how do you express that color in your work?
What's one step you can make to keep leveling up and keep growing?
Being able to sustain, what does your soul need?
What story do you need to write?
What lesson do you need to focus on?
What mantra do you need to follow?
To help you sustain this creative work?
What you do is so important.
What you do is so meaningful, this role as a nurse is such a privilege.
It's beautiful.
It's thoughtful.
It is abundant.
It is robust.
It's such an incredible opportunity.
And so what does your soul need to continue to sustain you in this work and inspire you to live a more colorful life?
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If you want more from us, I will say that for the rest of the year, we have 3 more physiologic birth classes on our roster.
If you haven't been to physiologic birth, this is the core class that you need.
There's one more pushing class this year, and then there is speedy inductions coming up, I believe, in November, that is going to be our new class.
If you haven't considered or maybe you have considered coming to our move learning retreat, this is the foundation, we will not have this full this full conversation at move.
But this really is what's been brewing in my mind as I've been putting together the CE.
You'll get 21 plus CEs at move, the CE related content at our move learning retreat.
We're going to talk soft skills.
We're going to talk history.
We're going to talk future.
We're going to give you exercises and ways to actually practice being that creative, artful nurse, while also including the science.
Krista Dancey will be there, who's our trauma therapist.
We have Teresa.
She is from Doulas May, who will be teaching us about the reboso in Mexico.
It's country of origin.
We have lots of other things up our sleeves, including morning yoga and of sound bath and ways for you to down regulate your nervous system and experience the environment, let alone the environment is 5 star, beautiful white sandy beaches with sea turtles right in front of the resort.
There is a myofashel moments.
There's breakouts about Enniogram and doing postpartum debriefs and high risk emergencies.
We have a special event for our mentorship people.
So you've been in mentorship, come to move and we will meet you in person and have a special night together.
Our ultimate goal for move and really for everything that we do is to help create connection, help create community and help you know that you're not alone while equipping you with the tools, to empower yourself to empower families, to ultimately have better birth experiences and live your fullest, most abundant, most colorful life.